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Goal Setting Tip No.3

Goal Setting Tip No.3: Just like in a game of chess, you need to have a strategy. It’s like knowing your next move at all times; always thinking at least one step ahead. And it must be YOUR strategy. Not your friend’s, your partner’s or your colleague’s. You know you better than anyone else; take advantage of that fantastic knowledge and do something with it.

And a strategy does not stop there…..

What’s your strategy for maintaining a positive mindset? What is your strategy for dealing with hurdles and set backs? What’s your strategy for keeping momentum up? What’s your decision making strategy?

I personally hate chess, but I can think strategically!!

Goal Setting Tip No. 2

Goal Setting Tip No. 2: I’m sure we’ve all heard the Milton Erickson quote, “a goal without a date is just a dream.” He’s correct of course. Research shows that you are statistically more likely to achieve a goal if you’ve specified exactly when you are going to achieve it by. And why stop at just the date? If you’re setting short-term tasks, specify the time too.

Time is a fascinating concept….do you know some people think that it is an illusion? Regardless, even if it is nothing more than a ticking watch…that’s the sound of life passing you by. Start doing today!

Goal Setting Tip No.1

Goal Setting Tip No.1: Do you ever hear people (or yourself even) talk about goals using the phrases “I hope to….” or “I’ll try to….”? Doesn’t give you a lot of confidence that they are going to be achieved, does it? Sounds quite a lot like there’s permission to fail held within the sentence. I mean how often do you hear a friend say “I’ll try to call you on Thursday” – and how often do they call?

The language we use is so important in goal-setting. It is like a direct link to our unconscious. So let’s drop the H’s (Hope) and the T’s (Try) and get focussed on the W’s (Will) and A’s (Am)!!

Become Your Own Masterpiece….NLP (Day 10 – The End!!)

And breath!! Okay, so I’ve learnt that I’m not a fan of train travel, tube journeys are just as hard work as I remember them, writing a blog a day takes some practice; but most importantly of all that I have what it takes to certify as a Master Practitioner in NLP, Hypnotherapy & Time Line Therapy. The course may now be complete; the journey is far from over.

I cannot wait to share the benefits of my learning with my clients through the ‘Become Your Own Masterpiece’ coaching sessions and workshops. I’ll be working with:

✔ Individuals who want to unlock or harness a skill that seems beyond their reach

✔ Business owners looking to set personal & business goals

✔ Young People/ Students who need support navigating a period of transition in education

✔ Corporate Individuals who need coaching to deal with a transition or business challenge

And if you’re wondering why there are two broken pieces of wood on my lap – I also learnt that I can break through wood with my bare hands!! I’ve been looking forward to that all week, absolutely nothing was going to stop me….and if the boys could do it, then I definitely could!!

Thank you for reading….


Become Your Own Masterpiece….NLP (Day Nine)

Today’s post will be short and sweet….as today’s session was all about me!! Working in pairs we facilitated what is called a ‘Breakthrough Session’ – you work through a personal history of each other, and then utilise NLP, Hypnosis and/or Time Line Therapy techniques and interventions to resolve problems or support future goals. I’m not one for problems, so I utilised the opportunity to look to the future and visualise my business goals for next year, particularly useful as I am taking the business in a slight change of direction from January 2017. The quote above really resonates with me as a result. My focus is on the future, and I am confident that it will secure the reality that I am looking for.

Become Your Own Masterpiece….NLP (Day Eight)

Well day eight will certainly be one that I remember fondly and definitely with a smile!!

I’d already certified as a Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, yet for whatever reason had not been proactively utilising the skills in my work with clients. After this week though, I can state with absolute conviction that I cannot wait to cement hypnotherapy into my offer to clients. A friend not so long ago said to me “wow, you can tell you really like to get under the skin and to the root cause of what leads people to behave in the way that they do, and how a problem becomes a problem” – she was absolutely right. Now, as a Master Practitioner of NLP, Hypnotherapy & Time Line Therapy – I really will have incredible tools in my toolbox!

Anyone who knows me reasonably well, knows that I have a bit of a soft spot for Derren Brown. I’ve been to several of his shows and have been lucky enough to go up on stage with him. Now, I refuse to believe that he’s a magician (I’m not a fan of magic). What I am learning though, is how much NLP and hypnosis content is involved in his act.

So I was so excited today, to recreate something that I have seen Derren do before – full body catalepsy. Essentially this is where the body goes so stiff and rigid that an the individual can be rested between two chairs without support between the neck and the ankles (see the title picture for a visual representation). Fair play to Hugh, who is obviously so good at going in to trance, that our disbelief and giggles did not get in the way!! Amazing!!

I’ll be reviewing my Derren Brown DVD’s (yeah, sad I know) to see what other NLP techniques I can observe in action.

Become Your Own Masterpiece….NLP (Day Seven)

I know that you may not have heard of TimeLine Therapy (TLT)…..having come across it again this week in the Master Practitioner NLP course, and now certified to practice it at a Master Practitioner level, I cannot wait to further embed TLT within my offer to clients. I have witnessed incredible results both within myself and others. I will be using it to support clients:

  • To let go of Negative Emotions from the past
  • To let go of Limiting Decisions from the past
  • Create a future the way they want it

So what is TLT?

(Extracted from In 1985, Tad James, applied a therapeutic process to the concept of an internal  memory storage system. The result was a collection of techniques  which produces long-lasting transformation very quickly-faster than what is currently called Brief Therapy. These powerful Time Line Therapy™ techniques are becoming the method of choice to make fast, effective, long-term changes in behavior.

Your “Time Line” is how you unconsciously store your memories or how you unconsciously know the difference between a memory from the past and a projection of the future. Behavioral change in an individual takes place at an unconscious level. People don’t change consciously. The Time Line Therapy™ process allows you to work at the unconscious level and release the effects of past negative experiences and change “inappropriate” programming in minutes rather than days, months or years.

The first step of the intervention is to elicit the client’s Time Line. You can see mine in the picture to the right. I’m sure if you asked your unconscious mind where your future is, and where your past is, I have an idea that you might say “it’s from left to right, or front to back, or up to down, or in some direction away from you in relation to your body.” Go on, ask your unconscious mind, where is your past? And your future?


Become Your Own Masterpiece…NLP (Day Six)

Every morning the Master Practitioner in NLP course starts with the initiation of three stories……I say ‘initiation’ as all three commence but are not finished. It is only at the end of the day that the story is completed and/or the punchline delivered – and of course they are finished in the opposite order to which they were started….confused much yet!!? Our unconscious minds seek conclusion, and in its absence we go into a trance like state. This state is perfect for enhanced learning. So if you’re a trainer, why not try it at your next session. (And for the eagle eyed among you, there might also be some similar logic as to why ‘Day Five’ is missing!)

If you need some inspiration, here are two of my favourites…..

Bird In A Cage……A bird found himself in a cage. The cage life was really all he remembered and, as such, it seemed like a normal life for a bird. It was a decent sized cage and there was enough room to move around comfortably, although not to fly. He regularly toured the cage, often finding some twigs, straw, cloth, some food and water. Well, the bird thought, since he was here, he may as well make himself comfortable. So, he began making a crude nest. As time went on, he found other things around to make himself a first class home, with plenty of diversions and food. Not too bad, he thought. It might be nice to try out the wings, but then again he was comfortable.

One day, during his regular inspection, he was surprised to see that the cage had a door! The cage had not been changed, the door had always been there, the bird had simply not noticed it before. The bird was intrigued and inspected it further. To his astonishment, the latch of the door was not locked. With one peck on his part, the latch disengaged and the door swung open.

There were never any constraints, just the lack of recognition of the actual situation. The bird perched at the threshold of flying into freedom. Ready to go out, or not?

Donkey in the Well….

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over & help him. They all grabbed a dirt & began to shovel dirt into the well.

At first, the donkey didn’t realized what was happening & cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel ­of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.

He would shake it off & take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off & take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well & happily trotted off..!!!

Always Remember in Life that: Life is going to throw dirt on you. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off & take a step up

Become Your Own Masterpiece….NLP (Day Four)

A little bit of a entertainment from Day Four on the Master Practitioner in NLP course. We were further advancing and harnessing our skills in utilising NLP to overcome an individual’s phobia. 

Now, I’m quite an interesting case study for irrational fears: spiders, frogs, dead or dying animals out of context (yes, you have read this last one correctly, and anyone with a ‘gift’ bringing cat might be able to understand this one).

Part of the technique is to understand how the individual does their phobia – how do they do what they do….here’s a little extract of my ‘spider fearing’ technique. Just an extract, it is obviously far more ‘complicated’! I know that some of you will be able to relate…….(WARNING – Contains cartoon spiders!!)

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